For decades there seems to be a problem in the natural hair community. I'm sure we've seen many people with different hair whether that be the type, texture, length, porosity, etc... I've seen tons of videos of people giving tutorials on how they care for their hair, and with each video they make it seem so easy. " I wish I had her hair" I would murmur to myself while hating mine.
I did it all. I would do relaxers, add heat (lots of heat)...I hated my hair and what I hated most was that no matter what, no matter how much I tried to rid myself of my "problem", my natural hair would always come back. The relaxer would grow out or eventually, my hair would get wet after I pressed it. Let's not talk about the process I had to go through to relax or press my hair. When I got tired of those, I would run to added hair and do styles like braids or cornrows and keep them in as long as possible so I wouldn't have to deal with it but once again it would find some way to show itself.
It took me a very long time to like my hair let alone love it and actually take care of it. I know I'm not the only one that struggled/struggles with my natural hair and if that's you this blog is for you.
Loving your natural hair can be a process, a lengthy one at that, but if you don't know where to start maybe these small tips can help.
- Find hair tutorials/videos that have the same hair type as you.
- Wear different natural hairstyles
- Try not to compare your hair/journey to others too much to the point it affects you negatively. Everyone's journey is different.
- Educate yourself on your hair type. A lot of us have problems loving our hair because we don't know how to care for them. Researching things like your porosity, what products work well with your hair, whether your hair is coils, waves, curls, kinky curly, etc...
It's a process y'all but the journey is worth it.